Originally Posted by
MineEvolved
My family has been lucky in that regard. That said, I've seen my share in families of close friends. Nothing tears apart family unity like someone bringing their pet nigger home for the holidays. Ranks right up there with dad raping the kids. As for how to cope, well, to be brutally honest, you don't. Your choices are quite limited in that regard. If you enable by way of acceptance (saying, 'it is what it is'), well, that just gets you more of the same. That leaves 'divorcing' yourself from it, like a hated ex-wife, or 'greiving' over the dead, and essentially treating them as deceased. Just like poker. Sometimes you just have to know when to fold a losing hand, before the losses get worse.
I learned a long time ago that no matter what you do, if a person is bound and determined to destroy their lives, they'll find a way. Take suicides. Unless you have the time and energy (and willpower) to lock them up for their own good, they'll find a way. Bedding a nigger, to me, is just a really slow-motion way to kill yourself, like cigarettes. But, here's a better question: After (did I read that right?) 39 years, do you actually believe your sister is going to suddenly awaken to the error of her ways? 4 decades is a long time to engage in jungle fever. I imagine she's probably quite impervious to logic and reason after such a long time. I'm dying to know how it is she hasn't been killed by her pet yet, but I won't ask.
I think you've put your time in on this, m8. Dwelling on it is only hurting one person: you. If your sister cared about how much harm this caused her own family, she'd have stopped long ago. Sorry if this sounds a touch brutal, but I'm a big believer in perspective and realistic expectations. Some people not only can't be saved, they don't want to be.